Can We Tell People Not to Wear Jeans At Our Wedding?
Your wedding is your opportunity
to throw the most fabulous party of your life. With that in mind, you’re
probably carefully creating a color scheme, deliberately deciding about your
decor and, of course, picking a ridiculously gorgeous gown to seriously wow
your guests. But one thing that’s harder to control are what others will
wear. Unfortunately, you can’t just make a blanket statement—especially on your
invitation or wedding website—like “no jeans allowed.” This isn’t a cool
nightclub, after all, it’s your wedding. While it might prevent people from
wearing jeans, it may also offend them. Here’s what you can do without being rude:
Encourage guests to dress for the
occasion.
You can definitely
urge guests to take their personal style up a few notches for the night by
including some general dress details on your invitations or wedding website.
For instance, add “semi-formal reception to follow” or “garden party” and
it’s unlikely that anyone will show up in Levi’s.
Be specific if you want.
You can provide suggestions about
specifics on your site if you’d like—for instance, sundresses for
women and khakis and blazers for men. This is particularly helpful if you’re
celebrating at a venue that actually requires jackets—you don’t want any
gentlemen to feel awkward for being unprepared.
Ignore any fashion faux pas.
If someone does show up in
jeans, just ignore it and graciously thank them for coming. Their fashion sense
(or lack thereof) won’t detract from your wedding one bit—unless you let it.
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